HOW TO RECOGNIZE AND PREVENT PEOPLE PLEASING IN YOUR LIFE
March 12 2025 – Delikate Rayne
Do you often find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you constantly putting others' needs ahead of your own, even at the expense of your own well-being? These are common signs of people pleasing which can often lead to burnout, resentment, and a loss of self identity. People pleasing can stem from a desire to be liked, avoid conflict, or gain approval, but it often comes at the cost of your own boundaries. Recognizing this pattern in your life is the first step toward breaking free and reclaiming your time, energy, and self-worth.
Difficulty saying no: Feeling stressed or sick when you have to say no to someone or often agreeing to plans, when you're overwhelmed.
Overcommitment: Taking on more responsibilities than you can handle to avoid letting others down, leading to stress and burnout.
Fear of conflict: Always wanting to be the peacemaker or avoiding disagreements even when it suppresses your own needs.
Seeking validation: How others perceive you is your top priority and you constantly seek approval or praise to feel good about yourself.
How to Prevent People Pleasing
Learn to say no: Starting small and practicing saying no while being firm and polite can help build your confidence.
Prioritize self care: Making time for yourself like doing regular activities to recharge you and checking in with yourself.
Set boundaries: Defining your limits, communicating clearly, and sticking to your boundaries is the best way to hold your ground.
Build self awareness: Recognizing your patterns, such as reflecting on situations where you tend to please others at your own expense.
Sources:
Healthline, “How to stop people pleasing and still be nice” via Crystal Waypole